Last week I delivered another quilt to this new angel mom. I heard about Heidi’s story shortly after the quilting service project for Charlie’s angelversary. Heidi is also a SIDS mom, like me. Heidi and her husband Jason lost their son Link, on March 26th of this year. There are so many parallels in our stories that I immediately felt bonded to Heidi. Even as we emailed back and forth before meeting in person, I felt like our souls connected as we could understand each other’s losses so intimately.
Last week Heidi came into town and we were able to meet for a night picnic at the park. She brought her daughter, Kezia, who is about Hailee’s age, and they played on the playground together till well after 9pm while Heidi and I talked.
Upon meeting Heidi, I was eager to learn about Link and her experiences. It also never grows old to be able to talk about Charlie. I feel like talking is so crucial in the grief process. And when I’m with another angel mom, talking about our angels is just so easy and welcome!
There’s something truly liberating and healing about connecting with another angel mom. And connecting with Heidi was especially unique because I felt like I was sitting with myself one year ago. We share so many of the same thoughts, fears, concerns, memories, and beliefs. I found myself nodding and relating to everything she was expressing. As I listened to Heidi, and I remembered the pain, fog, confusion, and desperation in the early days of my grief after losing Charlie, I really felt for her. While I’m not healed from our loss, not by far, I am grateful to finally feel that it does get better. I wish I could fast forward the experience for Heidi so she can feel that too, but I know she has glimpses of that and that she’ll get there. She’s doing absolutely amazing for having lost Link less than 3 months ago. I truly admire her courage, faith, hope, and perseverance.
I’m so grateful to have met her. Even though she lives a few hours away, I look forward to staying in close contact with her and I hope there are more night picnics and long talks in our future!